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YOU MUST KNOW YOUR VALUE

Your value is the same as worth.It's worthwhile to think deeply why you should go into any relationship.Does it worth going for or not?What do I stay to gain and what I stay to loose in case of any eventuality.Ladies of nowadays in most cases went for lust at expense of value or care less.They rush into relationships without minding to investigate the work the boyfriend is doing for a living.A research about family background and the hereditary ailment of the family if any before jumping into bed and proposing marriage. The advent of social media made the relationship faster and getting engaged has now become child splay.Some ladies had died in the hands of impostors met on social media.They promised marriage  and encourage them to come on visiting.Many ladies don't live to tell the stories in the hands of money rituals.I read of resent an undergraduate of a reputable family who left home for school but instead of staying in school.She traveled to meet her boyfriend in his fat

What you know can't continue, don't start it.

We often think we need to impress our spouse by buying the spouse gifts,shopping spree,travelling abroad for vacations,enjoying beauty of nature in different classy resort. All these are good to enjoy and to shower on family. A question normally comes to my mind. How far can I go with this tradition? I'm not going to be a slave to my desire?i.e struggling thick and thing to muscle resources to achieve ritual desire of life. However,I thought of the time I got married,there was a day my wife cooked a launch and I wasn't a home. She waited and waited but I didn't return on time. When I reached home,the food was cold and my wife did not eat till I came back. She was hungry but couldn't eat just because I wasn't around!I put my arm on her neck and gave her a kiss .I apologised to her and told her henceforth, She shouldn't wait for me again. She should prepare meal,take her meal and I will gladly take mine when I returned. Since then,that has been our standard and n

YES,YOU CAN HELP HIM OUT INSTEAD....

I was getting late to prepare for a three days conference coming up in Abuja.My intention was to travel by air on Friday so that I can settle down in time and prepare for the conference starting on Monday.At least with that I have enough time to jam and flex with friends in Abuja which I left some years back.Suddenly I got a call from Tunde ,my very colleague at work.I was hearing threatening loud voices of two people fighting.I heard my friend's baritone voice aloud when he said"come and pick your sister o before I kill her here.She had started her madness at home".Tunde was referring to his wife he married 6years ago.I wasn't surprised at all because they used to fight frequently.I was perplexed and quite uncoordinated immediately I heard come and pick your sister before I kill her here.Vic was my Junior in secondary school at Model secondary school.An active,unassuming and pretty lady She was during school days.A close friend to my younger sister and that makes he

IF YOU DECEIVE TO MARRY MISS UNIVERSE,CAN YOU MAINTAIN MISS UNIVERSE?

Life of deception is not life but a fake life.What is fake is fake and no substitute for that!Many young lads today are interested in fake life.Less I forget a story of my cousin who came on holiday.He saw a pretty lady who is much interested in and wanted to date.To impress this lady,he took this lady out for a date and went with Uncles SUV prado jeep. on their way coming,they had an accident and the car was virtually damaged.  Uncle got wind of the accident and called this boy's father to inform him that his son who came visiting on holiday went out with girlfriend and on their way back,had an accident and damaged his car.His Daddy was angry about the ugly development.The boy is expected to travel to US for his post-graduate course the following month.His daddy stopped his planned traveling and insisted that he will send the money for repair of damaged vehicle. Where I'm going is this,live your own life and stop living  fake lives.If you live a fake life to marry miss univ

REMOVE THE DARK SPOT OF YOUR SPOUSE BY YOURSELF.

Human beings are created with different trait and characters.Even twins from same womb exhibited different attitudes and view life from different prism.I could remember when I was young in Junior school and I had eczema at my back.I started covering up and wearing clothes all times because I didn't want my friends to know so that they would not make jest or humiliate me.Ordinarily,in the evening time,I liked to enjoy natural air without wearing shirt or singlet.Since the day I noticed eczema at my back,as young as a junior secondary school student.I would go and buy medicine at the chemist nearby and applied it at bedtime at night without noticing.I applied it for 5days and my body became fresh and smooth back. The body of your spouse can be smooth back too if you do it by yourself.Never you allow the third party to tell you the dark spot of your spouse.Identify his or her weaknesses and applied a soothing balm as I applied it on my body and became smooth again. Think of it,anoth

DOES DIFFERENCE IN RELIGION HAS ROLE TO PLAY IN MARRIAGE?

Religion is a strong belief in a supernatural power or powers that control human destiny or an institution to express belief in a divine power.This definition was quoted as defined by Advanced English Dictionary.How does it interfere with marriage?It start from what we believe as individual and how passionate we practice it.Level of understanding and  emotional control played an important role in such relationship.Have witnessed a scenario where one of my friends had to separate from his wife of ten (10)years because of difference in religion.They eventually separated after two issues based on irreconcilable differences associated with difference in religion. Intending husband and wife should be able to satisfy tolerance index or gauge emotions before getting married.Once either of the partner is  noticed  to be extremist in religion,inter-religious marriage cannot work out smoothly as expected from the union. Is better to marry from same faith,same religion for better understanding

DOES DIFFERENCE IN RELIGION HAS ROLE TO PLAY IN MARRIAGE?

Interesting subject of discussion.Does difference in religion has a role to play in Marriage?i.e Is inter -religious marriage has any role/interference in marriage institution?Coming up next!

THE INFLUENCE OF IN-LAWS IN MARRIAGE INSTITUTION IN NIGERIA TODAY.

Marriage is beautiful,highly enjoyable when it works well as expected.It can also turn unlucky to Aristotle of this world, enticed mixed feelings of sweet and bitter.The victims are either frustrated and psychologically affected or traumatized.The root cause of many problems today didn't originate from the couple themselves but many traceable to overbearing influence of the mother in laws on her son or indifferent attitudes of other husbands family members towards the wife.However,not that the wife herself is exonerated from this findings but each participants played vital role in allowing marriage to walk.I was thrown off balance when a lady was saying it among her friends that she never prayed to meet her mother in law alive in husbands house.In other words,praying for the demise of her mother in law before marriage or praying to have husband who has lost his mother years before they met!. She even said she will asked her intending husband if his mother alive or not before talkin

SINGLE MOTHER AND CHALLENGES OF PARENTHOOD.

It was like a bad dream when this woman was wailing and shouting.The whole neighborhood were awake with outcry of this woman as She was beaten her daughter and cursing her persistently.All effort to persuade her to stop raining curses on her daughter proved abortive.This was a woman who left her first marriage because of irreconcilable differences between her and her husband.She left home with her fifteen years old (15) daughter and relocated to another town. She thought of work to do to take care of her and her daughter.Without delay,She decided to venture into food vending business.She was raised by her grandmother who happened to be a popular food vendor in the village.In the course of vending food around the environs,She met one mechanic who was willing to marry her.Tunde was a well popular man in that neighborhood because of his lavish spending and comical nature.He used to play with this woman's daughter jokingly as his little wife.He would give both the mother and daughter

WHY KEEPING COW WHEN WE CAN BUY MILK?

Milk is an opaque white fluid rich in fat and protein,secreted by female mammals for the nourishment of their young.Cow milk is fortified in Vitamin D which is highly beneficial to bone health.We are not dwelling on this scientifically but used figuratively to create a style that puts our modern society in spot light with respect to relationship and marriage institution.In the past,parents look forward to seen their children getting married and settle down in family way.Today,those aroma of marriage catches no fancy as before in modern settings. Quite unfortunate, many marriageable spinsters,ladies and divorcee are willing to live as baby mamas or separated.This development agitated my mind and I took no time to interview few ladies as regards this ugly trend.I was bewildered when confronted with the following questions from ladies.- Do I need an husband when I can have boyfriend and raise babies?Do I need any husband when I have a lucrative job that fetches reasonable income?Do I nee